When you go through something that makes you seem like a victim–something that gathers everyone’s attention upon you and wonder “why?” and “what happened?”–you want to hide away from the world, instead of facing the changes and stepping forward in front of it.
People will ask questions. People will sympathize. People will judge. I try not to get in other people’s sensitive business, and I appreciate it when other’s don’t pry upon my private matters (which is arguably not private, since it involves the family).
One thing I realized, though: as stupid and pointless it seems to reach out in support of someone going through a crisis you have no idea how to sympathize with, or have no clue how to even relate to, it still means a lot to those who are hurting.
I thought of this as I listened to this song:
“Even though I am here, down on Earth… even though I have no understanding of the solitude of life you face out in the open-ended blackness of space, I care deeply about you. And whatever it may mean to you, however you may take it, I am sending you my sincerest thoughts and love. You are not alone. ”