My 2 Cents – Games with Friends

28 Mar

Playing games with friends. When it’s done in the same room, it creates near-instant friendship. When done online, it can be exhausting. My mind is a flurry of activity when I interact with people, and it’s not easy being amidst a large group of people if I’m not familiar with them. When I spend time with someone new one-on-one, I can focus on that person, and that takes enough of my mental energy as it is. With a group of people, my brain overloads and I need to get away from it all after a while.

I’m finding it much the same when I’m playing MMOs. Of course, there are those who I talk with on Twitter, which has become my main mode of social interaction with people who share my interests, and I find it much easier to approach them in-game since I’ve developed an ongoing relationship with these folks. But mostly, I am often left with just names in a chatbox. Even when I use a voice-chat service like Ventrilo or Teamspeak, I only get the bare minimum of who that person is. I can’t see people’s faces, see their little physical reactions and gestures; there’s a lot less connection and more build-up of stress. Going into a teamspeak channel is like going into a room full of strangers – and I can’t even see their faces.

I miss the days of getting together with a bunch of friends to play games together. Console games, board games, party games. Even playing outdoors games like capture the flag dissolved the stranger-barrier really quickly for me. If you want to get two people to open up to one another, having them play a game together is a much better way than, let’s say, coffee or a dinner. It’s nowhere near the same for me in an online environment.

Maybe I need to schedule some more intimate game-time with a select few in the near future, because lately, gaming online is getting to be very tiring form of play for me.

But maybe that’s just the cost of being social.


Posted by on March 28, 2015 in Gaming


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2 responses to “My 2 Cents – Games with Friends

  1. Chestnut Stonebough (@ggchestnut)

    March 30, 2015 at 10:39 am

    Chaide and I make sure to always schedule some “us” downtime either with or without friends once a week. Sometimes it’s crashing on the couch and watching some TV/movie, other times it’s board games, or dinner with friends. But we find we’re more refreshed and willing to game when we go out and do these things. 🙂

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  2. Matthew Thompson

    March 30, 2015 at 2:45 pm

    Yeah, while I certainly dabble a bit in online play, it is no replacement for good old fashioned local multiplayer which as I’ve grown older, I just don’t get to do quite as much as I used to.

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